10 Keys to a Successful Daddy DOM/Little Girl Relationship
The 10 Keys to a Successful Daddy DOM/Little Girl Relationship will clarify and answer most people’s questions about the successful special connection and wonderful lifestyle offered by the Daddy DOM - Little Girl Relationship.
A Daddy DOM is or should be an enlightened DOM. In almost every way, a Daddy DOM is more important to the life and happiness of his girl than the traditional Dominant or Master and their submissive. He interacts with her in the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of Dominance and submission (D/s). In this specific DOM/sub subcategory the male dominant is called “Daddy”, and the female submissive (sub) is called “girl”, “little girl”, or “babygirl”, etc. To be crystal clear, in no way does a Daddy DOM or his Little Girl support roleplay incest or encourage pedophilia as part of the Daddy DOM lifestyle. Most Daddy DOMs and their girls prefer to avoid the term “daughter”, which implies incest. Daddy DOMs and their girls have no interest in endorsing this concept in anyway. While in some cases, DOMs and some subs may have been victims of family violence, incest, or other abuse. Daddy DOMs and their girls are represented in these categories at similar demographic levels to the general population. The following is a brief tutorial review of the fundamental characteristics, features, behaviors and responsibilities in the shared Daddy DOM - Little Girl lifestyle.
01. Unconditional Love & Support
As her Daddy, Coach, DOM, Mentor, and number one fan, in many cases, the Daddy Dom usually believes in his Little Girl is more than she herself does, and often uses the wisdom of his age to see her not only for who she is, but also for who she can become. A DOM Daddy’s unconditional acceptance and energy surges when he is in contact with his little girl as does here with him. He expresses his pride in her and praises her for both for what she accomplishes, as well as those things she attempts, and for who she is inside and out as a person, as well as a submissive. He respects and accepts her for who she is and who she aspires to be — supporting her character development, helping her to value substance over superficiality. Because of his experience and concern, he observes and recognizes her faults without judging or criticizing her.
02. Primary Protector
The Daddy Dom serves as the primary protector of his Llttle Girl from both psychological and sociological stress, as well as physical or economic threats. Whether these fears are based on perceived or real dangers, or on potential or actual negative people, he takes her concern seriously. In many cases his Little Girl simply needs to feel safe and snuggle in her Daddy’s embrace, and feel his nurturing and support. As her Daddy’s he is her primary protector and he provides safe harbor for her day-to-day life issues, as well as her dreams and fantasy life.
03. Emotional Sanctuary
As her emotional sanctuary and ultimate confidant, she is able to go deeper and open her soul to herself and to him in ways she may never have been able to before with friends or family or in other past relationships. Independent of other friends and relationships, her Daddy is her ultimate confidant. There is nothing forbidden or taboo when she speaks with him there is absolute trust and knowledge that he will keep that trust and confidentiality. Knowing that he will never use this knowledge against her or throw it in her face to contol or manipulate her she never feels the need to withhold the truth from him. She is free to call him 24X7, anytime day or night, to reach out when she needs his support and comfort.
04. Mentor and Teacher
As her mentor and teacher, he demonstrates by example and by explicit verbal communications priorities and perspectives that help her better understand and learn form her past and current life experiences. The informed Daddy DOM is able show his Little Girl new insights, new ways of seeing her options, He is able to nurture her in ways she has never been nurtured, and to be there for her in ways she has never shared or experienced before. He and she know they are especially blessed when they achieve shared joy and happiness when she sees herself and her abilities through his eyes and is motivated in new ways that both inspire her and take her to new levels of self-confidence.
As is true with any DOM/sub relationship, there will be time when the submissive acts out her fears or behaves in ways that she knows are not in her interests and may even be self-sabotaging. She anticipates some form of discipline to bring things back into perspective and learn how to avoid repeating negative behaviors. Daddy DOMs prefer to support and encourage their Little Girls and when possible to avoid the occasional need to impose discipline. In addition to teaching values and demonstrating tough love it is important for the Girl to learn that bad habits like emotional manipulation or not speaking her truth are toxic. The respect for her Daddy DOM is critical to the integrity of the relationship and discipline for these kinds of actions is a necessary part of the growth of a quality relationship. Knowing that there will be consequences provides a form of stability a girl needs. Wise Daddies will not be excessively strict and will generate a punishment that fair and appropriate. They understand that discipline is a form of teaching and avoid the trap SM (sadomasocistic) punishment that can be out of line and inappropriate. Learning to be disciplined is the lesson of the discipline.
06. Tantric Sexuality
The enlightened Daddy DOM intentionally helps to reposition his Little Girl’s understanding of the nature and meaning of sexuality and the practice of submissive sensuality. Through an informed awareness of the chakras and a daily tantric meditation practice Daddy DOM/Girl sub couples are able to achieve and maintain their own ecstatic subspace. An alluring and magnetic aspect of the Daddy DOM/Girl submissive dynamic is her presentation as an innocent or even a “virgin.” A very powerful and touching important dynamic is the act of the DOM symbolically deflowering his Girl on an ongoing basis. The thrill of giving her sexual virginity to her Daddy DOM is very empowering and tender at the same time. Similarly exposing her to new mental concepts and/or cultural worldviews is a form of moving her from a state of innocence to maturity. As her Guide and Advisor he supports his Girl in being able to live a more balanced life. Daddy DOMs are there to give advise, answer her questions, help her keep calm, reduce her fears, increase her sense of security, and keep her grounded.
07. The Rock.
When the Little Girl’s life experiences are especially challenging and she may be moving through the dark times, her Daddy DOMS is reliable and there for her and able to draw on years of experience to offer advise that is dependable and solid as a rock. For many Little Girls ther has never been some one consistent, steady and receptive available for their moments of doubt and fear. Sometimes physical exhaustion and/or emotional depression can sweep into her life and having access to her Daddy becomes a loving light at the end of the tunnel. He is able to help her face her fears, deal with the challenges and help her find her way back into a place of personal alignment and inner peace.
08. The Art of Living
Learning about how to be her authentic self by living in the “now” and how to maintain a higher quality of life is one of the most important keys to a successful Daddy DOM/Little Girl relationship. Learning that the journey is as important as the destination, and being mindful of the words she uses and actions she takes are valuable lessons learned from her Daddy DOM interaction. Regardless of her age, professional accomplishments and/or financial status Daddy’s Girl is looking for and needs something only an enlightened Daddy DOM can provide. It is an essential element — like air, water, food, shelter — the non judgmental unconditional love and protection provided her Daddy is a primordial need that nurtures her soul and frees her spirit to soar.
09. The Art of Living
A Message from Rocco Alva & Enlightened Daddy DOMs from Around the World
10. The Art of Living
Why Daddies Like Littles
This can be asked the same for any relationship. Daddies like little's based on their own personal likes and dislikes and what they find attractive. A Daddy should enjoy the regression that their little naturally does and appreciate the child-like attributes of their little, but they will also find their adult side attractive.
The Title Daddy
There is a big difference between Daddy as a title for a Dominant in a D/s relationship and Daddy as a title for a father. While many have some reservations about this title, it is nothing more than that: a title. Daddies are not interested in pedophilia, incest or any other paraphernalia associated with children even though their title is often misunderstood and associated with that. When a little calls her Daddy by title, the feeling associated is nothing like the feeling she would get when she calls her father the same title. It’s the same with any other multi-use word in our language. For instance, the world love can be used to describe many things. You don’t have the same feelings for when you say you love bubbles as you do when you say you love your spouse.
Daddies and Sex
A lot of people just starting out in this lifestyle wonder if it’s still okay to have sex. As two consenting partners in a loving relationship, sex should be normal. Just like any other relationship, sex is natural and healthy for growth and bonding. Sex in a Daddy/little relationship is not done like that of role players where the sexual attraction may in some cases stem from deep seeded interest in incest or pedophilia. Sex between a Daddy and his little is just like sex between any people in a relationship; as two consenting adults.
Daddy-Dom v. Master
Daddies are very similar to Masters but there are some striking differences. First, Daddies cherish their submissive's little side and encourage her to come out and play. Second, Daddies are strict about different things. Where a Master may be strict about procedure and protocol, Daddies are more concerned with their submissive's goals and needs. Third, a Daddy can be more playful than most Masters. Masters tend to have to be more rigid with their submissive or slaves. Of course, we aren’t saying Masters are unable to show affection or be playful. But as a Daddy, playfulness is practically a part of the job description. It’s something you would have to do in order to keep up with your little.